Monday, October 16, 2017

On Feminism, Misandry, Gender Roles, and the infamous MRS degree, Among Other Things

Disclaimer: this is not meant to bash any opinion, but rather my take on both sides. I see merit within both, and so hopefully this is taken as an honest criticism of two demographics I am a part of.

Although I wholly identify as a feminist, I have always chosen for myself a more traditional path. I am lucky- my boyfriend doesn't bat an eye at this. He understands that everyone has a calling, and it might not always be a calling that brings money in droves. 

  My biggest issue has been finding a community. Many Christian women alienate single or childless women, especially those who feel called to serve our Lord outside the home. I believe that God has given us all unique gifts, and thus not everyone needs to be a parent. Egalitarian Christian women are the closest thing to a community for me, but it still is not a perfect fit. This is where feminism comes in. Although feminism is currently designed to be a concept that supports women's choices, many misandrists hide themselves under the guise of third-wave feminism. Not only is it unacceptable, but it's just plain wrong. Some women want to dedicate themselves to their family. There is nothing wrong with that. Not all women will be mothers and not all women will work in a conventional sense. We need to take a step back. God's got this, y'all. 

  With this lack of community comes the reminder that I don't fit within defined boxes. "Well, at least you know she's not getting her MRS degree." I never quite know how to respond anytime someone says this to my parents, because, sorry Momma, but that's kinda what I'm doing. I am going into a STEM field out of passion for science and exploration, but the caveat is, if I didn't have so many cheap/free options, I likely would not be going to college. I cannot justify going into debt for something that I'll only be reaping the benefits of for a couple of years. My future job is mostly going to be there for extra money so I can stay at home with my future kids and get a good job should something happen financially. (Also maintaining my job in a military family is a daunting task I don't believe I'll ever be prepared for.)

  My belief in equality shows up in my actions: supporting charities like the Malala Fund, petitioning members of Congress to pass better parental leave laws, and, most of all, supporting women's choices. (This is not a post meant to shame or belittle; it is only my experience within certain circles.)

I have always felt called to motherhood, but, surprisingly, it was only through God (and a much deeper exploration of feminism) that I became much more comfortable in my future role. It's not something that I feel is for everyone, but I feel it is right for me. I have prayed to God for clarity as well as discussed this with my boyfriend (who has already given me his word on marriage) and I now feel as if that is His plan. Do I know why He has chosen me, a feminist Christian, for this duty? No, but I do have ideas as to why He kept encouraging me to consider it. Do I know it will turn out for the greater good, despite how difficult it will be? Yes.

Which brings me to Awaken the Dawn and the Women's March. The Women's March had a good idea: a woman holds the power of the world in her hands, and when many come together, it creates something that cannot be ignored. Among other things, the Women's March stood for the rights of the women who have been belitted, raped, or abused and are forced to suffer while the person who took something invaluable from them gets off relatively free. Even with God's ever-loving grace, recovery is a long road, which is something I can personally attest to. Awaken the Dawn prayed for these evil men (although there are women who do these things as well, I'm not entirely sure anyone prayed for them) and their repentance. Both of these are good things. However, many women at Awaken the Dawn have felt as if the (now infamous) hats from the Women's March are contradictory. As a feminist, I do not think womanhood is inherently tied to your reproductive organs (example: those who are intersex but feel either more manly or womanly), but I also feel that, in trying to reclaim our personhood after abuse/rape/assault, we relate the two. Obviously I cannot speak for every woman on this issue, but there seems to be something off about it, which some women from Awaken the Dawn have pointed out in many an article (washington post, anyone?). The Women's March was a reaction built upon United States history, one repeated this month at Awaken the Dawn. Maybe they aren't so different after all. Ladies, the ball is, and has always been, in our court. May we never forget it.

Saturday, October 14, 2017

I'm a Her Campus High School Ambassador??!

Yes, you read that right! I'm officially a HC HSA! I have already submitted my first two assignments and I'm working on my third. I'll still be posting to this blog, but it might be interrupted because of my HSA duties. I'm super excited to have this opportunity, and will tell more about it as I get deeper into the program.

Wednesday, August 02, 2017

30 Day Back to School Challenge Day 7: Daily Routine

Wow, it's hard to believe that I've been working on this challenge for a week now! My daily routine during the school year depends on the day because of work, but if there isn't work that day, here is how it goes!

7:00 am: Wake up, get dressed, and eat breakfast
7:30 am: Leave for school
8:00 am: School starts
3:15 pm: Leave school
3:45 pm: Eat a snack and start homework
6:30 pm: Eat dinner
8:30 pm: Get ready for bed
9:00 pm: Finish homework/check social media and plan out blog posts
9:30-10:00 pm: Go to bed

Monday, July 31, 2017

30 Day Back to School Challenge Day 5: Favorite Study Snack

My personal favorite study snack is a store-bought one, unfortunately. When I have long study sessions, it's hard to get up and make something THEN still have time to eat it. I'll usually just eat some Sabra classic hummus with whole wheat pita bread. Even if the pita bread doesn't taste as good as authentic pita bread, it's still a quick, delicious, healthy snack.

I'm sorry for this one being so short, but I really don't have a lot to say when there's no recipe to attach!

Sunday, July 30, 2017

30 Day Back to School Challenge Day 4: Study Essentials

My study essentials are fairly bare-bones in the studyblr world, but here is my list

Physical Items:

  • Planner (I prefer the MintGreen brand, but most of my friends like Lilly Pulitzer.)
  • Black ink pens (PaperMate profile)
  • Colorful felt-tip pens (PaperMate flair)
  • Highlighters
  • Post-it notes
  • Post-it tabs
  • 5 subject notebook
  • Looseleaf paper
  • Graph paper
  • Index cards
  • Sharpies
There you go! This is a complete list of everything I use to study for all of my classes! I hope it's useful!

Saturday, July 29, 2017

30 Day Challenge Day 3: What's in My Bag?

My backpack is a North face Surge. I got mine from either Academy or Dick's freshman year, but I know they're sold on Amazon now.

In the first pocket, I keep my laptop in the laptop sleeve and a folder for important papers. This section isn't too large, so I try to avoid anything that would tug at the seam.

The second pocket is the largest by far and is where I keep my notebook, binders, planner, and pencil pouch. It gets full fast when you're taking all honors and AP!

The third pocket is a small one with the built-in mesh organizers. I keep my laptop charger, some extra index cards, and a small bottle of contact solution here.

Finally, in the front, there are three pockets. The horizontal one across the top has my headphones and extra tampons, while the vertical ones hold my calculator and phone. I keep them in different pockets to prevent me from pulling out the wrong electronic during class.

My backpack is pretty standard, but I'd rather have a standard backpack than one loaded to the brim so often that I develop back pain!

(An earlier version of this was posted here.)

Friday, July 28, 2017

Senior Year Bucketlist

This is my bucketlist for senior year (which will end with my senior trip seeing as some of this can't be done during the school year!)
  1.  Go on a road trip
  2.  Get accepted into college
  3.  Go on a stargazing date
  4.  Graduate!
  5.  Host a Christmas party
  6.  Attend a Halloween party
  7.  Lean calligraphy
  8.  Make a senior scrapbook
  9.  Make a high school memories quilt
  10.  Own a trench coat
  11.  Get my ears pierced
  12.  Go ziplining
  13.  Watch all the Harry Potter movies in one day
  14.  Get a tattoo
  15.  Run a 5k
  16.  Go to the local drive-in
  17.  Complete the 30 day senior photo challenge
  18.  Attend a masquerade
  19.  Become a vegetarian
  20.  Go shopping every day for a week
  21.  Find my personal style

30 Day Back to School Challenge Day 2: What am I excited about?

With senior year fast approaching, "what are you excited about?" seems like a question with a thousand answers at the same time.

I'm excited to be almost done with school.
I'm excited to be about to go to college.
I'm excited to go out on my own.
I'm excited to experience something new and bittersweet.

It's a weird set of emotions, because I'm excited for the new, but I'm also excited that I have a new planner, new notebooks, new classes. I'm excited to see what this year holds. For the rest of the class of 2018, good luck and let's go!

Thursday, July 27, 2017

30 Day Back to School Challenge Day 1: Goals

Since I'm going into my senior year, I have different goals than I did the past three years. Although the categories are similar, what I want to do with them is very different.

  1. Get accepted into college
  2. Maintain my 4.0
  3. Get at least a 4 on all AP exams
  4. Go all out for homecoming
  5. Go all out for greek week
  6. Prom
  1. Learn calligraphy
  2. Make sentimental crafts
  3. Slow down and enjoy things
  4. Eat more healthy
  5. Workout 4 times a week
  1. Post once a week
  2. Take more of my own photos
  3. Increase page views
  4. Increase social media traffic

Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Back to School

I don't start back to school for another two weeks, yet I've already done my school supply shopping. I've bought a new MintGreen planner (in Walmart and Target stores only), and with senior year creeping up on me, I know it's going to become even more useful than it already has been.

I consider myself among the lucky because I already know which schools I'm applying to and what my intended major is going to be, but at the same time, that knowledge is also more anxiety-filled. The application for my top choice opens up August 1, so now I can only pray that I get in.

Life is going to be chaotic until about December, but I'm okay with that. I'll soon be going on to greater things, so for now, I'll enjoy what I have. Feel free to comment any senior year or college advice below! I'll put my favorites in a post in a couple of weeks.